And that’s when it hit me: Just as I’ve hired a program coordinator and administrator for my business, so must I hire a social manager for my personal life — someone who will do all the screening for me. So last week I signed up for a dating service called Table for Six.I like it because they organize dinners of three women and three men — which I anticipate will create a laid-back environment, where I can organically make new friends without feeling the pressure to make a romantic connection.I don’t like the aloneness that chronic illness has caused.I’m home today because I did too much yesterday, both physically and socially yet I had a had a wonderful time where I was and who I was with.As with other disabilities, chronic pain creates a chain reaction of struggles in one’s life — not the least of which is dating.For me, the dating struggle has manifested in a number of ways: Sometimes getting out of bed is a Herculean task, and the major events of my day consist of taking a hot bath, then lying sprawled on a post-apocalyptic size ice pack. You should try it.) In this case, the impact on my ability to date is obvious: Unless a gaggle of metrosexual hotties not only line up on my doorstep but also magically whip out a key to my apartment, I’m not playing.Then there’s the unpleasant aspect of screening through random weirdos — going out to coffee with those who seem fabulous on the computer screen but turn out to, shall we say, not quite pass muster in real life. Maybe I should go back.) The “problem” is, I love what I do so very much, that in most cases — given my time and energy constraints — I prefer to be sitting at my ergonomic desk in my cozy home office, sporting my plaid flannel jammies and big fuzzy slippers, maniacally rubbing my hands together while crafting my latest plot to take over the world. Despite my disability, I am living my dreams — which leaves me with a very low tolerance for anything less than fantastic.
Your so right, we have “shit to do” and I work 3 part time jobs to make ends meet on SSID. Many are disabled due to strokes and wheelchair bound.Choices cause consequences and for me that means I’m home today and I accept it because there is no point in being angry about it because it serves no interest. I’m curious to find out how you incorporate Feldenkrais movement lessons into your pain management.I’m a practitioner with my own ongoing pain issues.All three were not steadily employed, if employed at all.It is almost like they figured I was lucky to have a boyfriend and that they could walk all over me.